It's wind down time ladies! The family is fed, the babies are in bed and I am finally able to ex-HAAALE! All praises!
Truth be told, today has been a toughy. One of 'those days' when everything seems to go left when you're trying to go right. I literally electrocuted myself on a surge protector...yea...its been that bad. BUT-having a bad day does not give me the right to be a sour puss toward my man....and that is the message of the day! We must know how to embrace and deal with our emotions in a way that they don't negatively affect our families, and especially our men. We have to remember the pressure they are under. This world has manipulated the images of our men and convinced us that they are our enemies. Imagine that. Not only are they oppressed in the work force, in politics, media, and every other aspect of society...now they're oppressed in their own homes. Now I know, we all have our ways. No person or relationship is perfect; but we can all make real effort to perfect the way we operate in our relationships. So my dearests, here are a few ways to take the load off BOTH of you at the end of these long days...hope you(and your mate) enjoy!
Truth be told, today has been a toughy. One of 'those days' when everything seems to go left when you're trying to go right. I literally electrocuted myself on a surge protector...yea...its been that bad. BUT-having a bad day does not give me the right to be a sour puss toward my man....and that is the message of the day! We must know how to embrace and deal with our emotions in a way that they don't negatively affect our families, and especially our men. We have to remember the pressure they are under. This world has manipulated the images of our men and convinced us that they are our enemies. Imagine that. Not only are they oppressed in the work force, in politics, media, and every other aspect of society...now they're oppressed in their own homes. Now I know, we all have our ways. No person or relationship is perfect; but we can all make real effort to perfect the way we operate in our relationships. So my dearests, here are a few ways to take the load off BOTH of you at the end of these long days...hope you(and your mate) enjoy!
Tension Tamers for couples:
- Couples massage- this is at LEAST a once a week occurance over here. If you've never tried it, it takes a while to develop the right touch. Men tend to be a bit heavy handed without realizing it. Let him know, but remember to BE NICE with your feedback. Also be ready to adjust your touches to suit his needs. Once you get it down pat, this is a great way to communicate without words.
- Foot rubs- Much like the massage but focused on the feet. We take for granted the benefits of a good foot rub. According to reflexology, every part of the body is connected to the hands and feet. So if a full body is too energy consuming for the moment, try just the feet. Just make sure them dawgs aint barkin ladies, and ESPECIALLY the brothas! ;)
- Hot tea and intimate coversation- Now I know, we're not all blessed with a man who loves tea and listening to us talk (or willing to pretend); but for those who are, few things beat a hot cup of herbal tea. There are many fantastic blends. My favorite is Love.All.Over.'s Lavender and Chamomile SereniTea! Which can be purchased here....
- Couples massage- this is at LEAST a once a week occurance over here. If you've never tried it, it takes a while to develop the right touch. Men tend to be a bit heavy handed without realizing it. Let him know, but remember to BE NICE with your feedback. Also be ready to adjust your touches to suit his needs. Once you get it down pat, this is a great way to communicate without words.
- Foot rubs- Much like the massage but focused on the feet. We take for granted the benefits of a good foot rub. According to reflexology, every part of the body is connected to the hands and feet. So if a full body is too energy consuming for the moment, try just the feet. Just make sure them dawgs aint barkin ladies, and ESPECIALLY the brothas! ;)
- Hot tea and intimate coversation- Now I know, we're not all blessed with a man who loves tea and listening to us talk (or willing to pretend); but for those who are, few things beat a hot cup of herbal tea. There are many fantastic blends. My favorite is Love.All.Over.'s Lavender and Chamomile SereniTea! Which can be purchased here....
These are just a few, PG-Rated ways to connect and relax with your man. I hope they are helpful to you all. I will be posting more in the near future but uuummmm....it's time for me to go relax with my man SO....leave you comments and suggestions. Share your relaxing practices with us sistahs, we're here to help each other keep these blessed unions together.
Blessings & More Love!
Blessings & More Love!
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