So I'm researching the black marriage "scene" and I came across an article asking if it is ok for a woman to marry for money...
It was written by a sister, and it highlighted all the reasons women married in times past; and reminded that we are in 'different' times now. So women should "work and get their own".
Now we all know by now that there is nothing 'new' under the sun. One of the main 'differences' of our times is the fact that women are no longer in the home. An even bigger discrepancy is that men are NOT expected to provide the protection and stability of a home. Women are thrust into the position of being "both the woman and the man" or worse, "The mother and the father" and men are acquiescing to this behavior...wearing skirts and stuff (eww). Everyone's power is being stolen by one huge ego. Aint that some ish...?! And who is left to suffer for it? While mothers are out of the home forging a name for themselves in their careers...who is raising the babies?
I can say, as a work at home mom, a few hours after school is not an adequate amount of time to put into raising these babies. We can deny it, or we can look around and see the proof. Children have lost their damn minds! Our elders are scared to leave their homes in fear of 14 year old boys. In our rush to have the most, we have failed them.
It all begs the question, is it wrong to marry for money? FOR money, Yes! But for stability, No. It's common sense! It's balance and obedience! We are taught to rebel against our nature. That a man controlling the income is a threat to our womanhood. That a man "can't tell us what to do". But by nature we want to submit. We want to be vulnerable and protected. We want to be provided for.
Many of us have forgotten, or were never taught, that there was a time when a wife was purchased. Not like a slave but like a BIG, EXPENSIVE gift. Her family was endowed with money, clothing, land, food, etc. and she was given gifts as well. If a man left his wife and married another, he was still expected to take care of the first wife. So what on this green earth makes you think you should NOT be well kept? (sidenote: I do not promote gold digging, I promote order:) ) Speaking of well kept, what is the tragedy in keeping a house? I can speak from first hand, everyday experiences. There is a joy and sense of accomplishment in making a comfortable, beautiful home that no amount of degrees or paychecks can compare to. To make a man want to always come home in the evening, to be his slice of heaven. To be able to keep your children healthy and happy. To be a direct and positive effect on your community and future generations. Girl, you couldn't pay me to let this go! :) This is the r'evolution.
Blessings
Now we all know by now that there is nothing 'new' under the sun. One of the main 'differences' of our times is the fact that women are no longer in the home. An even bigger discrepancy is that men are NOT expected to provide the protection and stability of a home. Women are thrust into the position of being "both the woman and the man" or worse, "The mother and the father" and men are acquiescing to this behavior...wearing skirts and stuff (eww). Everyone's power is being stolen by one huge ego. Aint that some ish...?! And who is left to suffer for it? While mothers are out of the home forging a name for themselves in their careers...who is raising the babies?
I can say, as a work at home mom, a few hours after school is not an adequate amount of time to put into raising these babies. We can deny it, or we can look around and see the proof. Children have lost their damn minds! Our elders are scared to leave their homes in fear of 14 year old boys. In our rush to have the most, we have failed them.
It all begs the question, is it wrong to marry for money? FOR money, Yes! But for stability, No. It's common sense! It's balance and obedience! We are taught to rebel against our nature. That a man controlling the income is a threat to our womanhood. That a man "can't tell us what to do". But by nature we want to submit. We want to be vulnerable and protected. We want to be provided for.
Many of us have forgotten, or were never taught, that there was a time when a wife was purchased. Not like a slave but like a BIG, EXPENSIVE gift. Her family was endowed with money, clothing, land, food, etc. and she was given gifts as well. If a man left his wife and married another, he was still expected to take care of the first wife. So what on this green earth makes you think you should NOT be well kept? (sidenote: I do not promote gold digging, I promote order:) ) Speaking of well kept, what is the tragedy in keeping a house? I can speak from first hand, everyday experiences. There is a joy and sense of accomplishment in making a comfortable, beautiful home that no amount of degrees or paychecks can compare to. To make a man want to always come home in the evening, to be his slice of heaven. To be able to keep your children healthy and happy. To be a direct and positive effect on your community and future generations. Girl, you couldn't pay me to let this go! :) This is the r'evolution.
Blessings
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