I remember a time when I lived for the nightlife. This was long before children or a husband brought focus to my life. My patience was short and my hemlines were shorter. By today's standards I was 'covered up' and pretty modest...I mean, my butt cheeks never showed and "the way I dress doesn't determine who I am!" ...Right?. I was bright, intelligent, and wise beyond my years(according to some); but I couldn't for the life of me figure out why men seemed not to be interested in those attributes. More captivated with my body and face than any form of conversation. In this superficial society, they all seemed to love me, swore that I was the "one"; but there was a nagging sense that something was missing. In the back of my mind, my mothers words from my childhood played like a record, "A man wants a lady, and he will never make a whore his wife". Though my actions and speech were lady-like, people get to know you with their eyes first! By family connection, I ended up in the company of N.O.'s rasta community. That was my first introduction to what it meant to respect my body, my womb, and my womanhood. I saw men who PREFERRED that their women be covered. I saw sistas who were comfortable (even in sticky Louisiana summer heat), beautiful, and fashionable in modest apparel. I met a man, my husband now, who suggested (but didn't push) for me to cover myself. I started slowly, eliminating and replacing items one piece at a time. Over time, my entire style had changed, for the better. I developed a truly unique and individual style. The respect I had searched out previously comes randomly and abundantly from strangers, friends and family. Male and female! Above all, who I AM actually has changed, become more refined, with a change of clothing. My reproductive health has improved DRASTICALLY since I ditched the tight clothes. I have heard many testimonials from women who have completely shrunk fibroids, cysts, etc. by making a few simple changes in wardrobe. It forces you to be creative, and it also forces you to commit to your own respect. Consider it sistas. I know the brothas seem to 'like' that 'look' better...but they really don't know what they want until we show it to them. When we raise the standard, they will have no choice but to rise with it! Let's be the Help they need! ;)