One of the most powerful tools for transforming the black man, and the black family, is a modest, self-aware black woman. I hear so many sistas complaining about what a 'dog' the black man is, yet we feed them dog food constantly. We accept them dressed as little boys, in saggy jeans (or skinny jeans), colorful sneakers, caps, etc. To add insult to injury, we search for men while we dress like....less than ladies. It is safe to say that most people do not understand the law of Attraction. This law states that we can only attract to ourselves what we already are. Every person in our lives is a reflection of some part of ourselves. So do you really wanna attract a man who is okay with his woman going in public in pants that accentuate her 'prints'? I didn't think so!

....He got married! 
     It's a beautiful thing to see real marriage happening amidst my peers. It seems that there are weddings all around me, and it's not even wedding season yet. I'm seeing a pattern that most of my sisters know all too well. It's a joyful time for the brides, but a nightmare for more than many of our sisters. Why is this? Why does it seem that more brothers are marrying while most sisters are not?